How do you define “Failure?”
Often we judge failure wrongly.
How do you judge failure? Our definition of failure begins with our definition of success.
So, how do you define success? Yesterday these questions echoed through my mind. A cacophony of arguments ensued.
Success is achieving a goal. Failure is the opposite, obviously!
Defeat is difficult and often Defeat wants to bring its tagalong friend – Despair. Despair brings his friends: Hopelessness and Bleakness. It’s a downward spiral much like the beginnings of an avalanche.
When Despair shows up in the midst of our lives we need to act fast. The avalanche is inevitable if we open the door to our minds and let Despair come in..
So what is failure… a mistake?
If so, to what degree? A big mistake? Maybe hurting a loved one’s feelings…
OR… A small mistake? I dropped the mayonnaise jar and it broke on the kitchen floor…
A variation of our plans? If I set a goal and fail to achieve it have I failed?
Is success simply achieving my goals? I’d naturally think it is.
Realistically though I am going to hurt someone’s feelings by my actions. I am going to fumble and drop a jar and have it paint my kitchen floor with yuck. It is impossible to achieve complete “success” by never making mistakes. Mistakes are part of life.
Recall a baby you know or knew. As they grew, they stumbled learning to walk and broke things that they should have never touched. Children often say hurtful things. And then they learn not to.
Perhaps there’s more to success than simply completing a task as defined by our simple minds. Perhaps success is learning from mistakes and applying them so that our goals are not only achieved but redefined by our newly gained knowledge. Perhaps real success is allowing ourselves to take risks beyond our comfort zone and glean from the results.
Learning from mistakes and applying that insight is true success.
Actually – Failure is giving up.
Often we want to give up when we are unsuccessful in achieving our preset goals the way we determine. But our ways and plans are not always ideal. Our minds are quite simple and limited and there is much room to grow.
Fighting the feeling of failure can be a battle worthy of the mightiest warrior. Start by defining success.
A good definition of success is: Overcoming obstacles to achieve a goal.
Success is a step by step process not a milestone or landmark.
Think about that….